It can be the littlest thing that goes undone but not unnoticed, especially in a BDSM relationship.
Be diligent.
Courage is gritting one's teeth; it is simply doing that and pushing ahead, paying no attention to the circumstances. - Hagakure
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It can be the littlest thing that goes undone but not unnoticed, especially in a BDSM relationship.
Be diligent.
The structure of anything is its support system allowing the thing to exist and stay in place. It is no different in a D/s relationship.
Provide a sturdy structure and you can build anything you wish around it.
It is very often the case, particularly in terms of BDSM, that what we fear is not the thing itself but rather the idea that we will be so drawn to something when it has been tried and the fear of not knowing has been removed.
Craving and fearing are two sides of the same coin and that is why being on the edge of that coin is so incredibly arousing.
A good Dominant should appreciate the service of their submissive as much as their submissive does.
If she gives 110% for you, you have no excuse not to do the same.
People who are into BDSM can be so cliquish and clannish about this “magical realm” they feel they’ve entered.
Seriously?
Put down the Harry Potter wand of spanking and realize that it doesn’t make you any more cool or unique than anyone else that this is something that interests you.
Figure out what works for you and, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else, enjoy yourself. But please, stop acting like you just discovered the entrance to Narnia while farming for potatoes.
As a submissive, the will to please should not be applied indiscriminately.
Make sure they earn your effort.
Being a “true submissive” is more about being true to yourself than true to any mythical standard.
Any pleasure can turn to pain…
and vice versa.
The first time you’re solded as a submissive by someone you’re serving or denied something because of something you’ve chosen to do your reaction speaks volumes about your nature.
If you pout and feel put upon maybe you’re not serving the right person.
If, however, you feel the hot burn of a desire to improve or show that you are worthy, why then, that can say everything.
In a BDSM relationship subs often wish to be marked by their Dominants to show they are possessed.
I find the deepest mark is left upon the soul.