The Question is the Answer.

There are two different types of submissives that explore D/s relationships in my experience, the first kind want desperately to let go and they do so long as they can control exactly how that experience plays out, which in essence means they haven’t let go at all.

The second kind basically treats the exploration like a ride on a rollercoaster - they make sure the ride is safe and then they get in, pull down the safety bar, and wait to see where the ride takes them.  Usually they come out at the end arms up and screaming with a huge smile on their faces.

I prefer the second kind.

There is nothing like the safety of knowing your place…

Ask any submissive.

The body is the mind’s playground.

The responsibility of a Dominant in a D/s relationship is an awesome thing for it is often truly the case that he shields the weight of the world from his submissive.  Not, mind you, because his submissive is weak, but because his submissive has taken off her own armor to show her vulnerability and allow everything inside her to be exposed.

If the Dominant fails in his responsibility then the weight of the world can come crashing down on the most exposed and vulnerable parts of his submissive and that can be calamitous in the extreme.

The weight is heavy, but you must do everything you can to bear it, for trying to dig someone out from under such a collapse is 1000 times harder than keeping them safe from it to begin with.

A good Dominant should be able to hug with the same intensity that he can wield a belt.

The rabbit hole that is BDSM is deeper, much deeper, than most imagine. 

If you go in thinking that you might not find the bottom then you won’t be so alarmed when you continue to tumble down.